STOP PARENTAL ALIENTATION dot NET was created by a targeted parent with a severe case of parental alienation. There are many websites discussing parental alienation and how to spot it. This website contains first hand experiences from targeted parents and children and is used as a resource for recognizing and preventing parental alienation. It is intended to educate the general public, raise awareness about parental alienation, and help raise a better generation of people. Please seek the appropriate help if you are experiencing domestic violence or need legal advice.
Parental alienation, often intentional, is a set of tactics and strategies of words, actions, and behaviors that a narcissistic parent (alienator) uses on the other (targeted) parent by using the child as a weapon.
Parental alienation primarily occurs during a high-conflict divorce to get the child to side strongly with one parent over the other, forcing the child to choose between parents. It continues to occur post-divorce and into custody modifications. However, many non-married parents also experience parental alienation.
Parental alienation affects thousands and thousands of people worldwide. Many people think of "Fathers Rights" when they hear "Parental Alienation," but mothers are often the targeted parent. It affects the targeted parent and child, and other family members and friends that were once a part of their lives.
Parental alienation is emotional and psychological abuse to the child and targeted parent.
The alienator and/or step-parent accuses the targeted parent of abuse but, in reality, they are the ones abusing the child.
Family courts interpret the law, not solve relationship issues or solutions that help everyone in the family. Generally, Courts want the child to have a relationship with both parents, assuming that it's a healthy relationship. However, in parental alienation, the alienator damages the loving relationship between the child and the targeted parent, which makes it difficult for courts to see how they abuse the system until it's too late.
It's often difficult to find solutions that stick because, typically, the alienator doesn't follow the rules. As a result, both parents spend thousands of dollars on legal fees. Parental alienation cases are difficult and very expensive to fight in Court. There are many steps in taking a case to trial. Litigation causes financial stress on both parents and emotional strain on everyone involved and costs thousands and thousands of dollars. It requires lots of evidence, including custody evaluations, depositions, and testifying witnesses. Often times the children have to testify and will lie because of the manipulation, gaslighting, and brainwashing.
Most courts don't recognize parental alienation or don't have the education or experience to deal with these types of cases unless they've personally experienced it.
Many aspects of a divorce and custody modifications can be resolved using alternative dispute resolution, such as family mediation and coaching. Mediation offers an opportunity to customize a parenting plan created by both parents. Often the plan is a better option than the Court's standard.